Oh Hey, I’m Not the Perfect Mother…

Why do mom’s judge?  Aren’t we all trying to accomplish the same thing – keeping our children safe?  I was taking my kids to daycare this am as usual, and we have a safety routine we follow when getting out of the car.  Isla gets out first and she must touch the car until I get the bags and Graham.  It’s already hard enough to maneuver all of this and to cross a busy parking lot where parents think they are Nascar drivers and HAVE to get to work.  This morning I said “okay” and to Isla that must have meant “GO.”  Of course it didn’t mean she should run, but she did.  There were no cars and I ran after her and told her that scares me and she cannot do that.  Here comes the judging part.  There is this mother who always says hello and seems friendly enough.  Well, girlfriend witnessed my shortcoming and gave me a look that said “you are a terrible mother, control your kid.” You know that look of empathy you get when a mother thinks “oh it’s okay I have been there”? Nope-this was a pure judgement.  Not only did I want to cry a little, I wondered why do we do this to each other?  No mother is perfect, but I know we all want to be.  There are so many things on a daily basis that we cannot control and all we can do is our best.  My best is different from your best and you know what? That’s okay. I don’t breast feed either because I don’t produce breast milk.  Is that not okay too?  My baby is almost 6 months old and weighs almost 16 pounds.  I think he is just fine.  I guess I have just never experienced someone judging me to my face before and I was really shocked.  We are all trying to do our best, and whatever that is, is good enough.  Everyone out there struggles with something and we should try to support one another.  Things can change in a heartbeat and all you have to do is look away once and something bad can happen.  It doesn’t make you a bad parent, it makes you human. I don’t feel like I have ever judged another mother in this way before, but you can be sure I never will.  Words hurt, but today I found that a look can be just as hurtful.

Cheers,

Lauren

What I have been up to

I realize I just threw out a post about shoes and didn’t even explain why I have been MIA lately.  Life at our NEW house has been nothing short of chaotic.  We had a baby in December, bought a house in January, settled on that house in March, sold a house in March and settled on it in April and moved into the new one in April.  Uh yeah I got confused just typing that.  It has been very challenging doing all of this without family in the immediate area, but we are doing good and loving our new home.  It needs some work and I feel like we have done a lot in only 6 short weeks.  Graham is getting so big (5 months already) and Isla talks all the time.  She is becoming an actual person and currently showing us why people call this time the “terrible two’s.” These are all great things, but they are also a reason why we never have a shortage of wine either.    More to come!

 

Cheers,

Lauren

Reviewing Tieks

A lot of people have been asking me about my Tieks for the past few months.  I have been asked numerous times “what kind of shoes are they?”  Well I am here to tell you, they are the most comfortable, versatile flat out there.  I saw them on my Instagram feed and immediately started researching them to see what they are all about.  Not only do I own a pair, I own three pairs.  I started with a metallic gold because I knew they would go with everything, but I then branched out to the cobalt blue pair and more recently, the fuchsia.  They are great shoes to chase my kids around in, as well as complimenting a great outfit.  I can never seem to find comfortable flats that are also cute, and Tieks does it all.  They have a very cool blue padding on the bottom that offers support and shock absorption as well as a nice snug back that remains in place all day.  While they are a bit pricey, they are totally worth it.  This is just my opinion and I wanted to share!  If you do buy them you will not be sorry! Simply go to www.tieks.com and shop their boutiek!

 

Cheers,

Lauren

Graham’s Birth Story

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I have not posted in a while because I have been focusing on my new little man!  He has been with us just over a month now and it has been so wonderful and challenging at the same time.  Here is how it happened!

I went for my normal checkup on December 4th.  They found that my blood pressure was over 150 systolic which is very high for me.  I was sent down to the hospital to get it under control where my body decided that it was time!  I got my blood pressure down fast and started contractions.  I got to 4.5 cm and was admitted.  They gave me an epidural and put me in a room to wait!  My mom, stepdad and Jason’s parents made it down in time to see us before the baby came. When the midwife came in to check my progress his head was right there!  Lucky for me it only took 4 contractions, and total of 12 pushes before he came out!  After all the worry and constant contractions, I made it to 37 weeks and 6 days and delivered a healthy baby boy.  That is still considered pre-term, but I was happy with how far I got.

After the pregnancy I had, he was ready to come out and meet us quickly.  For both of my babies, the actual labor and delivery were much easier than the 9 months leading up to that.  We named him Graham Evan and love him more than words.  We are starting to settle into a routine now and Isla is taking her time adjusting.  She has been the only child for almost two years and doesn’t like sharing our time.  We know this is normal and are trying remain patient.  I will keep the updates coming!  And another plus? I get to drink WINE now 🙂

Cheers for real this time,

Lauren

Thank you!

I have not been on here in a while, but wanted to say thank you for the overwhelming amount of people who have registered and commented on my posts!  I have no idea how you all are finding this, seriously, but I am thrilled!  I had my little man 11 days ago and am spending time just enjoying him right now.  Thank you again!  It made my day!

Cheers,

Lauren

Pregnancy Update

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This was taken on Thanksgiving by my dad 🙂 It was such a beautiful day! We took Isla to the playground

I guess I made it!  I never thought my body would allow me to carry this baby boy for this long.  I ended up in labor and delivery 12 weeks ago with what seemed to be a bad prognosis.  I had the same thing with Isla, but it wasn’t so early on and not as bad.  I stopped my Procardia over a week ago and have felt pretty good!  I no longer have club feet by the end of the day and seem to feel better if that’s possible? Much my my dismay, when I had Isla the “full term” week was 37 and somehow in 2 years it has changed to 39.  So, I guess I still have some time to go if my body allows.  I doubt I will make it much farther since I am dilated a few centimeters and almost totally effaced.  We will see!  I am looking forward to meeting this little man and having him join our family!  I at least feel like I can breathe a sigh of relief knowing we have come so far.  It was not an easy road, but a road well worth taking.

Cheers,

Lauren

How To Beat Winter Dry Skin

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I don’t know about you, but I sure hate this time of year.  I don’t just hate the cold, but EVERYTHING feels so dry from my skin to my hair to the inside of my nose.  It is important to keep your skin fresh and hydrated all season long.  This fool proof method will give you that AND the best part is that it only needs to be done once or twice a week!  Here is how I keep my skin hydrated during the winter:

Clinique Exfoliating Scrub

Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Overnight Hydrating Masque (one tub of this will last FOREVER)

Cheers,

Lauren

Cleaning The Toys

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I went a little crazy this past weekend trying to have everything done before baby arrives.  I am totally driving my husband crazy, but he knew what he signed up for.  I cooked a bunch of meals to freeze, cleaned the basement (again), and made sure everything is in order.

I wanted to give Isla’s toys a good cleaning before the winter germ months start so I turned to Pinterest.  I found this article  by threelittlebirdsfamily.  She writes a nice how to article on what to do.  I plan on doing this once a month to keep her toys all clean, especially since I am sure her little brother will be chewing on them too.  She suggests using DAWN for babies, but I think any dish soap is okay to use.  White vinegar is a natural cleaning agent and sanitizer. Her instructions are: put all toys in the bathtub and run very hot water.  Add some dish soap and white vinegar.  Let them soak for 30 minutes, rinse and let air dry.

Happy cleaning!

Cheers,

Lauren

The Things I have Learned in 7 Years of Marriage

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(One of our engagement photos)

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(The first kiss)

FullSizeRenderFullSizeRender-2So to start, these photos were taken from actual photos.  That’s right – I think I had a flip phone back in the day so I had to find some photos to take pictures of to add to this post.  Haha!  I guess they look kinda vintage?  I will take it. Sunday November 15th marks 7 years of marriage to the handsome guy you see in these pictures (we look like babies).  I don’t care what anyone tells you, marriage is hard, but well worth it. When you love someone like this you let them see the good, the bad and the VERY ugly.  They are the missing half to your whole.  It doesn’t mean each day is full of kisses and pet names I assure you.

Jason and I have our moments, but letting go and realizing people have their flaws is a huge piece of the equation.  There are things that drive me CRAZY that he does, but I know I wouldn’t want it any other way.  Compromise is a huge part and sometimes I am not that great at it.  Yes Jason, I know I am not.  Be kind to one another – words can hurt, and hurt bad.  You know how on a test if the answer has “always” or “never” you never choose it because nothing in life is “always” or “never” and those words will typically start a fight.  They do in our home at least.

I know I am exactly where I want to be even when times are tough.  We were just two young people who met one night and have built quite the life together.  Isla is the light of our lives and we are adding her brother very shortly and I know life will be even more complete.  So, when you decide to get married think about how you want your story to go and realize no one is perfect, but you have to find the perfect in them.  Happy 7 years to my main squeeze.

Cheers,

Lauren

My Hospital Bag

IMG_3691FullSizeRender (44)It’s getting to be that time!  I am officially 34.5 weeks today and got a good checkup.  We are finishing all the last-minute things before this little man arrives and that includes getting the hospital bag packed and ready to go!  Here are two pictures of what is in my bag.  The top one for me, and the bottom one for him.  I did a lot of research on what to take and found some good articles on Pinterest on what to take.  I took some from each and came up with these essentials.

For Me: A toiletry bag with shampoo, conditioner, face wash, moisturizer, toothpaste, body wash, deodorant, body lotion, chap stick and nipple cream.  I also packed pajamas that will make it easy to breast feed, a nursing top and nursing bra, flip-flops, sweat pants and a robe. It’s always a good idea to also pack some reading material.  I will pack my iPad, and our camera when its time along with the chargers.

For Baby Boy: You will need a onesie, pajamas and hat to take him home in.  I also packed some diapers, mittens to prevent scratching, my own swaddle blanket, burp cloth and a warm blanket to cover him in the car seat.

This was the last thing on my list to do except the car seats!  I am really starting to get excited and nervous at the same time!!  I will remain on my medicine (Procardia) for the next 10 days, which will then mark my 36 week!  Hopefully all will go smooth until I get there!

Cheers,

Lauren